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lisamcb
#1 Posted : Saturday, March 09, 2013 1:26:20 PM Quote
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Hi, I am newly diagnosed (just this week) and have suffered from general anxiety for quite a few years now. I would like to know if there are others out there suffering the same thing? My anxiety is bad at the moment after starting the medication etc. and imagining every little twinge is something really bad.

Thanks.

zena_mary
#2 Posted : Tuesday, March 12, 2013 12:34:03 PM Quote
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Hi Lisa, wecome to the forum.
I can fully empathize with you.
I have always been a fairly anxious, easily stressed out sort of person, worrying about all sorts of silly things especially during the night only to realise in the morning how silly I have been.
One of my daughters is very much the same and the other one is much more laid back. She always gives me a ring when it gets too much and finds that sharing her worries and talking them through really helps to put things into perspective.
She also has mild OCD and is able to overcome this with sharing. It is a very real problem and should not be dismissed.
Saying this, makes me realise how well she has learned to cope with it, at the moment she is in the process of setting up her own business as well as teaching 2 days a week.
I believe anxiety to be closely linked with depression, even very mild depression can start off lots of worrying and for many being diagnosed with ra and coming to terms with can trigger lots of anxiety and depression.
Everyone on here is very happy to talk through any worries that you have no matter how trivial they may seem to you.
Keep posting, let us know how you are getting on,
Zena xx
lisamcb
#3 Posted : Wednesday, March 13, 2013 4:03:00 PM Quote
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Thank you Zena_Mary,

I am just very grateful for this forum and being able to share things that we all seem to understand.

I am so glad the nights are getting lighter and from that point of view there is light at the end of the tunnel as the winter nights are so long and seem to go on forever.

Roll on the summer.........

Lisamcb Smile
Louisa
#4 Posted : Wednesday, March 13, 2013 6:58:04 PM Quote
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I developed depression after the RA started. Before I was pretty happy but this has dragged me down. I think depression is quite common in RA patients.

I'm sorry you are struggling at the moment Lisa. It is hard when you are first diagnosed but you will adapt with time. Sending best wishes Smile

lisamcb
#5 Posted : Thursday, March 14, 2013 11:01:03 AM Quote
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Thank you Louisa

As you know you can feel pretty isolated and only others who have been through the same thing know what you are feeling.

I am heading to my youngest son's assembly later on today and am so looking forward to it.

Lisamcb xx
Louisa
#6 Posted : Thursday, March 14, 2013 9:17:11 PM Quote
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I hope the assembly was good ThumpUp

I felt totally isolated when I was diagnosed. I only joined here recently and wish I had done so much earlier. I think you are probably in a good place to get information and advice.

Go easy on yourself, give yourself time to adapt, and look for ways to improve your day to day life a little while you do adapt.

It may be worth seeing if your anxiety meds are best suited to your RA meds too. Or maybe increasing your dose of anxiety meds while you adapt?

Do what you need to to make this easier on yourself. That's what I wish I had done.
lisamcb
#7 Posted : Friday, March 15, 2013 6:35:45 PM Quote
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Thank you Louisa

The assembly was brilliant - they put such a lot of work into it and it was actually all about sleep.

I have had a better day today for some reason - just wish I could feel this positive and optimistic all the time.

I don't take anything for my anxiety so it can cause real demons in my mind.

Thank you for your post - it will lovely to keep in touch.

Lisambc xx
jenni_b
#8 Posted : Saturday, March 16, 2013 10:31:54 AM Quote
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My hubby has some bad spells of this but generally controlled by citalpram

I've been on a pain management course and found its helped my day to day worries a great deal
how to be a velvet bulldoser
brendab
#9 Posted : Monday, March 18, 2013 9:27:32 PM Quote
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Hi Everyone

I'm not sure if it's the chicken or egg syndrome but I've found as I've got older, or is it since I've had RA, that my anxious nature has become more extreme. I did go to the doctor years ago about my feeling of despondency at times and she asked me if I did more then than I did at 30. The answer was of course yes. I now find at 67 that I have a mother of 92 who depends on me for shopping, banking, everything in fact. I also have a son of 39 with severe OCD who has hardly been out since before Christmas. He's finally agreed to start medication and there is a glimmer of improvement. My husband doesn't understand the condition so sometimes I feel I live in a battle zone.

I do get down often and feel overwhelmed but then I think that I am entitled to feel this way and perhaps I would be odd if I didn't. The best antidepressant we have is our 10 month old granddaughter so thank goodness for her. We see her and my daughter and son-in-law often so we are lucky in that respect.

I worry about my mother and my son but I keep telling myself that I can't fix everyone's life. In fact, all I'm doing is ruining my own. My friend's daughter once said to her that her brain would wear her out. How true is that for many of us. One thing that really annoys me though is that my mother tells everyone that she's got less wrong with her than I have!!! Unfortunately for me it's true.

The hardest thing I'm finding is that I feel isolated with my feeling as so many of you do I'm sure. If I voice them it sounds like I'm moaning and friends and family just don't want to hear. Nothing's going to change in the near future but it's nice to have a moan occasionally so thanks for 'listening'.

Keep well - Brenda

zena_mary
#10 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 12:19:07 PM Quote
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Hi Brenda,
Sorry you have to cope with so much, when life alone with ra is a struggle.
How long has your son been bugged with OCD, it is very controlling and a difficult thing to cope with. At least he is now agreeing to have medication.
Admitting that there is something wrong is half the battle.
I hope that you will both now see a big improvement. At least he has you to understand what it is like, many people dont, but then I suppose its the same with no end of illnesses!!
We do worry about our families, but can only do so much and to be honest it gets us nowhere!!
My granchildren too have brought me so much pleasure BigGrin We have six, between 4 and 10 yrs. Children can make some very profound things, putting things into perspective for us BigGrin
Hope you are able to have some me time to enjoy things you like doing, it is so important to be uplifted with time to yourself.
Best wishes Zena xx
brendab
#11 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 9:47:23 PM Quote
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Hi Zena

Thanks for the reply. My son has battled with OCD since his teens. People thinks it's just a condition where people are obsessive cleaners or have to line up their possessions in a certain order but it's far worse than that. The World Health Oranisation list it in their Top 10 of debilitating conditions as it stops the person reaching their full potential. My son has two Degrees and a Masters so realistically he's intelligent enough to know when something isn't logical. Unfortunately, that's not the case with OCD and he's been diagnosed with a Severe form. Anyway the tablets do seem to be helping and he's looking much better. Perhaps he will soon be able to start getting on with his life again.

Barry and I went to the Manet exhibition at the Royal Academy this afternoon and we really enjoyed it. It was well worth visiting and I do feel better for the break. It's my son's birthday tomorrow and he's actually agreed to have a haircut before we go out with us and my daughter's family for dinner. A few weeks he wouldn't have done this so long may the improvement last.

Off to bed soon as my hips are really aching - love Brenda
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